Gregg Krech is a leading expert on Japanese psychology and the author of Naikan: Gratitude, Grace and the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection.
In the book, Krech shares a list of 11 reasons why we fail to express gratitude:
- Misdirected attention – Just failing to notice what is given.
- Lack of Reflection – Not taking a moment.
- Others must “know” how grateful I am – Don’t take for granted, especially with those close to you
- Procrastination – Don’t wait.
- Forgetting – Don’t let the moment pass.
- Laziness – Make the effort.
- Entitlement – No matter the circumstance, others help.
- People were doing their job – You still benefit, say thank you.
- It’s wasn’t much trouble – Receiving any gift is justification enough.
- Later trouble or difficulty – The benefit exists separate from anything else that comes.
- An unknown giver – Honor the gift even if you don’t know the source.
A list like this helps us see many things that get in the way of being thankful.